Conscious Relationships

Lonely? You don't have to be!

Books, counselors and teachers abound, and yet every day so many of us struggle with the balance between intimacy and distance, trying to be what society says we should be, or searching for magic keys to find, create, fix or keep fulfilling relationships. 

Here are just a few of our wishes and the books, blog posts, etc that attempt to teach us...

How to become a love magnet...
How to meet the man of your dreams...
How to pick up hot chicks...
How to romance and win her heart...
How to seduce him...
How to heal and find bliss in sensuality and sexual play...
How to keep your partner happy...
How to survive / resist / forgive / end an affair...
How to stop sabotaging your relationships...
How to let go and move on...
How to find someone to love...
How to keep your love alive...

Why, for some of us is this so difficult? Is it all in saying the "right things?" Is it about having the "right" body or clothes or car? Can we stop the habit of repeating our histories (even with 20/20 hindsight), our parents' perhaps less-than-skillful examples, our own prior bad choices? Can we make our relationships conscious, non-violent, exciting, growing, and fun? Are smart, single folks able to overcome past "failures" or post-divorce cynicism and draw to us the partner we long for? 

These are but a tiny spattering of the thousands of questions that have flowed through my mind as I go through life, observing. Today I've decided to begin to write about my passion: exploring the ins and outs -- and definite ups and downs -- of being an imperfect human in relationship. 
I would love to hear your thoughts and insights, begin dialog, expand my mind along with you. Please, feel free to comment. And so it begins...